Introduction:
 We are all born frail, tender minded babies when we leave our Mothers womb to arrive on earth with fully functional Hearts, Lungs, Kidneys, Bladder and the rest of the complex digestive system that processes food & fills nappies. From birth onwards we have a virtual Air Drop of endless information transferred to & absorbed by our little developing brain that needs plenty of food and lots of sleep.
So we are all born frail minded (Tabula Rasa) and our brain simply adopts what it is exposed to from the environment in which we are raised.
We develop language accents, as well as accents of behaviour from the language & environment of our Mother land.
Well that is not all that the Brain learns. So we all could do by learning that most of our brains have been exposed to and learned, experienced and developed survival behaviours which we can name "Asperger developments".
"High Functioning Aspergers Syndrome people are not defective they just think differently" Dr Tony Attwood.

Inner Children
Pining for love, Reaching out to each other,
Seeking acceptance
As these depicted High Functioning
Asperger effected
Adults
Turn their backs, argue or entirely
Cut off contact with their own partners
Or supporting friends.
Fundamentally we know no other way
To avoid & respond to those
Disturbing Sensations
Yet unidentified emotional "Feelings"
Since being organically & naturally activated
Possibly a consequence of some infant trauma.
"Emancipate yourself from mental slavery. Only you can change your mind" Bob Marley
Many adults seek to change and stop this agony:
Tending to consider themselves as endlessly "Imprisoned"
Eternally on guard, Under pressure to conform and perform. There remains an inner calling an unidentified traumatic aching need. A need seeking some form of imagined freedom.
Endless aching needs founded in childhood. Instead of recognising, allowing & dealing with this emptiness
We escape to forms of "Wild river" behaviour
To some imagimed Perception.....some, 'Desired dreamy escape to freedom'. Regardless how dangerous, reckless
And treacherous that
"Wild river" behaviour maybe.

Hear below Dr Tony Attwood offering
An avenue of recovery
Recovery for your safe return to Self.
Freedom from that endless painful sense
Of repetitive criticism,
SELF CONDEMNING CRITICISM
Perceived as never being enough.
Miraculous personal freedom is granted
When we arrive at the
Understanding that this is how
"Our psychological rivers of childhood"
Cut their path through
The neural wilderness of our innocent
Infant brains.
This transformation to an awareness of Self
Miraculously transend Consciousness
We perceive ourselves anew.
Exposing our former "neural river passage"
As having been "My life course".
Indelibly pasted into my innocent child mind as a rule.
From this elevated vantage of Awakened consciousness .
I Now see
That river is not me.
Nor ever was I
That river.
This is a natural process of human
TRANSFORMATION.
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Please take your time processing such
Moments of psychological transendance. Across these awakening visions of Consciousness.
It can be & IS A challenging,
Moment OF REALISATION
A MOMENT OF ABSOLUTE
Exposure of the
REAL SELF. ............................
 Rejected, dispenced with partners are expected to go away and get over, yes, Get over the 10, 15, 20, even 50 years of dedicated love and sacrafice
Invested into this relationship.
Mean time the departing ASPIE may choose Not to transform.
TO HOLD ONTO HABITUAL INDOCTRINATION
To go off..... leave
Carrying their HABITS.
Off into his new world of make believe.
Relaxed in his freedom to have a good time,
Remaining
STUCK AS A CATERPILLA
NEVER to fly
As we progressively AWAKEN to the delusion of CONSCIOUSNESS we offer here further support for the awakening of our fellows and families who are involved in extended unexplained and uninvited experiences across our domestic Home Land.
 ABRAHAM MASLOW
"A musician must make music;
An artist must paint,
A poet must write
if he is to be
Ultimately at peace with himself."
– Abraham Maslow
Yes we know about Maslow's Heirarchy of Essential needs
BUT THERE ALWAYS WAS MORE
Abraham Maslow was a self enlightened individual whose continuing work on the ever expanding capacity of Human Consciousness was never published, ........ Maybe Abraham realised that Society was not quite yet ready So he left some unpublished notes for us to pick up on when we were "old enough".
To have a deeper look into our personal cosmos
This most significant change was adding an apex to the pyramid: self-transcendence.
You can compare it to a spiritual need to transcend our thoughts.
We have to see ourselves as part of the broader universe to develop common priorities and goals.
Once this need is fulfilled,
We can see beyond our individual well-being To the needs of us all.
Primary Need gratification for our innocently indoctrinated humanity has seen man Gravitated through the threshing machinery of survival,
Across the straw walkers,
And the riddles to separate grain from the chaff, straw and standing stubble.
However as we have discovered Man is not a case hardened Machine for EGO's possession.
We are the LIFE within our Body.
 Fortunately Life is its own transending Infinite Consciousness which Maslow and many other
"Enlightened & Transended'
Conscious People, as shown, have progressed to understand.
Life and its conscious fertility remain
With the Grain
For progressive generations.

Anger
is the terminology used to describe the elevated, aggressive form of defensive behavour, a response delivered by automatic reaction from within the EGO's package of learning, to any perceived to be, imagined or actual experiences of threat or perceived challenges to life's individual "SENSITIVITY" to survival. Alert to anger maybe triggered in response to any sense, or psychological sensitive perception of threat from any exposure to our life's hypersensitivity for safety. Any sudden movement, loud noise, such as a raised voice, harsh expression, simplist criticism, sarcasm, riduicle, bullied behaviour or even extended stillness, with quiet silence, or change to ordered personal expectation. Former Prime Minister of Australia Tony Abbott demonstrated his anger in shaking silence when he became instantly alarmed due to his apparent Asperges Syndrome moment when a journalist addressed him about his careless use of language in his comment that "Occasionally Shit Happens" following a soldier death in Afghanistan.
BIRTH OF ASPERGER SYNDROME A specific spectrum of autism identified by Austrian Paediatrician Dr Asperger.
Foremost Australian and International Aspergers Syndrome specialist, Clinical Psychologist Dr Tony Attwood declares:
"People with Asperger Syndrome are not defective they simply think differently'.
We may guess individually fired neural pathways, within the mind, are created during very early experience of life as a consequence to shock, threats, danger, any life threatening trauma may have establish psychological safety EXITS, virtual "Fire Stars" to instant safety.
Under every day and often very challenging work place demands and expectations the Asperger performs brilliantly.
Aspergers are of nature, determined, high performance professionals, of physical and mental intellect. Yet any apparent or perceived change of plan to anticipated order, or set procedures may, but not always, instantaneously trigger the Asperger state adopting a heightened DEFENSIVE demeanour for survival. This is an entirely involuntary, primate developed response from the reality of adverse childhood experience/s.
They mostly insist they are right and as shown one cannot out escalate an Asperger syndrome individual.
This psychological maze of neural avenues remain permanently open, waiting, available, pathways, into which the Asperger conscious attention is instantly switched, ....without deliberate intention.
This naturally developed, default, 'secondary defender' provides momentary shelter for his or her safety.
Inherited and granted at conception. A particular aspect of this behaviour, maybe due to some emotional response to the sensitive issue of being shamed, criticised, embarrassed, victimised, challenged, humiliated or being weakened by threatened defeat, separation and the scary self imagined possibility and reality of inevitable parental abandonment.
All the experiences of childhood neglect and abandonment through which we have managed to survive by seemingly becoming further desensitised through suppressive denial due to the natural innate brilliance of the Spirit of life, which we inherited and were granted at conception.
Our human physiology automatically responds to any "prodding or button pushing" around these old wounds and retained physiological memories of discomfort.
We just do not want to go there or be taken to that painful place, so we avoid it by walling up with self protecting defence which manifests within to be readily seen and heard all over our body and occasionally all over the neighborhood or the immediate vicinity.
Rage is often the unfortunate out come to this inability of never being trained to recognise or understand our own emotional vulnerability which readily extends into Domestic Violence, physical brutality, suicide and ultimate death.
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As Babies virtually every child has been "toilet trained" we learn to identify, & recognise the feelings of our bowel & bladder. We are trained in ways to attend to those needs.
However too few, if any, are ever trained to recognise, identify understand and respond appropriately to such traumatically established behavioural anomalies consequence to development of Asperger syndrome.
In fact as children such manifested behaviour often incites further rage by the parents and minders, So the child is exposed to yet further reinforcing brutality and traumatising abuse.
We simplistically and unconsciously absorb our methods of coping with such discomfort of emotions by inheriting and developing personal "accents of behaviour" from the environment in which we are raised.
Yes we become absolutely desensitised from emotional sensations.
Moods are born here around this numb dis-ease of suppression.
We develope an intense ability to avoid or display discomfort, in so doing become the committed People Pleaser.
Like Father, like son, Like Mother like daughter.
Unintentionally we carry on transferring these behaviours across generations.
So it is said "The sins of the Father are passed down for many generations".
 Hence "Apple does not fall far from the tree".
The Rage of Achilles & "fake news".
Anger is a stay away from me radiation.
Anger has often been misunderstood and maybe deliberately used as a driving motivator which is easily identified as a sham when played upon and over the community in such promotional instances when the boxers "play nasty" at a press conference or the media pit two football rivals up in the local derby. Of course this is also played upon by further media desensitisation who deliberately engage such divisive tactics to increase their paying exposure fees for advertising by capturing both sides of the argument with "the fake news".
Such media manipulation is intended to provoke and incite interest of the fight within all to attracts extra attention as we are alerted to a possible ‘enemy' in such instances it is used to deliberately motivate players and followers alike.
Manipulation with anger:
The passive aggressive, psychopathic personality often lies hidden within this nasty little self protective characteristic.
This observed form of systemic psychopathy is practiced by less than honest people who operate in this manner and choose to live in denial of or conversely desire to avoid dealing with their own wounds.
Psychopaths in the work place. Well exposed here in John Clarke's book Working with Monsters.
Such behaviour is regularly seen in institutionalised systemic business practices and readily identified in characters focused on clamouring through the respective association in search of any hierarchical promotion.
This has been so well exposed by the Royal Commission in the finance industry in Australia following on from a similar inquiry in Iceland which saw many Bankers imprisoned.
Less than honest commission rewarded sales sharks, "horse traders", gamblers, receivers of stolen goods, pay day lenders, some politicians and property developers regularly deceive the community behind the guise of dollar driven progress to forge new developments.
Advertising often runs a fine line between truth and outright deception, too often aimed at stimulating buyer vanity & their Ego.
Anger in relationships:
"I'll show you attitude"
 
What of the children?

Inner Children pining for love, Reaching out to each other, Seeking to be accepted
Whilst Asperge effected Adults
Tire exhausted in relationship
Turn their back on each other.
Sculpture by Alexander Milov Burning Man Festival Nevada 2017
An example of an attempted relationship conversation.
Husband says. "Here I have made an effort to change" as he throws the flowers on the kitchen sink.
"You made me feel like a total fool on the bus just to bring you home flowers".
"So it's really unfair of you to tell me and your friends that I have not tried to change."
"Yes sure I am critical but what do you expect when you don't want to sleep with or have sex with me."
"Am I supposed to be all loving and contrite when you tell me that I really don't get it after being together all this time"?
"When you tell me I'm too small, not big enough, come to soon, a hopless lover."
"You're no sex pot yourself, always too tired, got a head ache, pre menstral, clean sheets."
"Why wouldn't I feel like having a few beers with the boys after the footy when you make me feel like crap when I'm at home"?
"You are at home pleasing yourself all day long, I have deadlines and phones and people around me 10 hours a day, when I come home I just want to be left alone, is that ok, or is that too much to ask?"
Possible Scenarios:
These possible scenarios may sound exaggerated as true as they be. For the purpose of this article, however they relay the sentiments of many therapy situations where individuals are guarding themselves against further wounding and totally un aware of their or their partners emotional sensitives.
Rather than actually listening, hearing, watching, sensing and understanding each other they are forever "on guard", projecting defensive messages back at their partner, neither party is actually communicating with the other.
See Alexithymia Simply put, alexithymia is a disorder where the individual struggles to name their emotions. When asked to describe their feelings, they cannot. As a result, they struggle with interpersonal relationships as well as forming social attachments.
Narcissism

In this region of personality discussion we also need to be aware of the Narcissistic aspects of character which can and often delude individuals who have too high an image of their own self ability and self importance.
 Yes hopefully this may help some to see that we are all born frail minded, and brain simply adopts what it is exposed to from the environment in which we are raised, from this indoctrination we base our judgement on what is RIGHT or WRONG.
About what is being polite, displaying good manners, courtesy and consideration to our fellow man and woman.
Considering others behaviour, reflects the way we appreciate being considered and treated without seeing them as greedy or rude, obtruse abusive characters. Some simply do not know others simply do not care, but it is US who make the judgement of right and wrong, of black and white, of lazy or greedy because we have developed that level of understanding from our own indoctrination.
See Lost in their EGO.
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